Honesty is the best policy in the workplace -- but like any rule, this one has a few exceptions.
"It's important to be cautious with what you say to your boss, as even the slightest slip-up could make or break your career," says Ryan Kahn, a career coach, founder of The Hired Group, and author of "Hired! The Guide for the Recent Grad."
Lynn Taylor, a national workplace expert and the author of "Tame Your Terrible Office Tyrant: How to Manage Childish Boss Behaviour and Thrive in Your Job," agrees. "There are certain comments and questions based on negative perspectives that can set you back with your boss," she says. "If they continue unabated, these phrases can sabotage an otherwise great job."
A good practice is to first pause before blurting out something you might regret to examine what you're trying to achieve and the likely reaction you'll get from your boss.
"If you think you may regret it, you probably will," Taylor says. "Better to err on the side of waiting until you can crystallize your thoughts into a more palatable and professional dialogue."
Aside from the obvious -- like profanity and insults -- here are the words and phrases you should never utter to your boss:
'Openly criticising or pointing out your boss' mistake is a sure way to be excluded from future meetings or ignored the next time you raise your hand to speak,' says Rosalinda Oropeza Randall, an etiquette and civility expert and author of 'Don't Burp in the Boardroom.'
If you feel your boss has made an error, there are better ways of addressing this, she explains.
You might say, 'I may be misinformed on this one, but I was under the impression that ...' This prompts them to reconsider and correct the information if necessary without putting up their defences. 'Whatever phrase you use, say it with a helpful and cordial tone,' Randall says.
A 'can-do' attitude is always a valued trait. 'I can't' shows both a lack of confidence and unwillingness to take chances -- neither of which will endear you to management, says Taylor.
'That's not part of my job'
No job description is ever set in stone. 'As cross-functional teams remain the order of the day, you're expected to be flexible and make your boss' life easier,' Taylor explains. 'As a side note, the more skill sets you accumulate, the more indispensable you are.'
Saying that you're not willing to go beyond your role shows that you are also not willing to pitch in for the success of the company, Kahn adds.
Your cooperation is expected, and so is a polite tone. 'Telling your boss 'no' is a challenge -- and is sometimes necessary -- but it can be inappropriate if you don't phrase it well with an explanation,' Taylor says.
'For example, if your boss says, 'Do you have time to work on the Smith project today?' you shouldn't just say, 'No.' Instead, try something like, 'Today will be a challenge if you still want me to focus on that company presentation. Would you prefer I work on this today instead?''
'I don't know'
You may not have the answer to every question, but your best guess and a promise to find out is much better than a shrug of the shoulders, she says. 'Anytime your boss would need to do the work for you, assume that's not a path you should take.'
Some people think that this is an acceptable response, as we all 'try' to get things done to our best ability. But it leaves a manager feeling unsure, and when assignments are given, your boss is counting on you, usually with specific deadlines, says Taylor.
'Imagine yourself asking, 'Will you be signing off on my paycheck on the 15th?' and your boss responding, 'I will try.''
'I'm not paid enough to do that'
This one is similar to 'that's not part of my job.'
Maybe you're just trying to be funny -- or hint that you deserve a raise -- but this phrase is highly inappropriate and unprofessional, and it tells your boss that you're not willing to go above and beyond.
'How do I benefit from this?'
Sometimes your work involves helping others and other departments. Bosses have little tolerance for those who aren't team players, Taylor says.
'That's not what I heard'
Avoiding gossip and conjecture is a good idea, as it can backfire. If you're not sure about something, wait, or you risk appearing unprofessional.
'I'm sorry, but ...'
'The caveat essentially cancels any genuine apologetic sentiment,' Taylor says. 'A straight, 'I'm sorry. I'll be much more aware of this next time' is the expected response when you mess up.'
'My breakup has got me all messed up. My heart's just not in it today.'
Everyone has personal problems every now and then, which is when your professionalism will be put to the test, Randall says.
'Not to diminish your emotional wounds, but why should your boss's needs be put on hold because you need time to process your breakup?' Randall asks. 'This is when you might consider taking a 'sick day' or calling your mum for some love and tenderness.'
'Well, I did my best'
This is a cop-out. If you made a mistake and that was your best, that doesn't speak highly of your abilities. The better response is that you'll get it right next time.
Don't threaten to leave the company, says Kahn. It's unprofessional, and they will consider you a flight risk.
'I've tried that before'
Bosses have little tolerance for laziness. 'Examine whether you really gave the option a shot before you shoot it down,' Taylor suggests. 'Your boss may have something else in mind.'
Alternatively, explain that you appreciate the suggestion and tried XYZ with such and such as a result, but you would be glad to try something more effective.
'I just assumed that ...'
That phrase causes frustration for many bosses, as they'd rather hear that you made an error in judgment and learned from it instead of excuses. 'To err is human, but to defer blame is a career killer,' Taylor says.
'That's not how I learned how to do it.'
Keep the conversation positive with your boss, says J.T. O'Donnell, the founder of career-advice site Careerealism.com and author of 'Careerealism: The Smart Approach to a Satisfying Career.' Employers don't want to hear what you can't do; they want to hear that you are open-minded and ready to learn to do it their way.
'That can sometimes slip out because people want to be able to show their expertise and they think, 'That's why I got hired,'' O'Donnell says. 'But if you don't frame it properly, it can really sound negative and critical of the organisation.'
'It's really not my fault; it's John's fault'
The blame game is a treacherous path. If you're innocent, then explain why. Don't implicate others if you bear the primary responsibility, Taylor says.
'Taking responsibility is key,' adds Kahn. 'If you're always seen as someone pointing the finger, eventually your boss is going to question who is really to blame.'
'If I don't hear from you, I'll just do ...'
This has a threatening tone. It's better to wait than be admonished later.
'(Your predecessor) did this differently/better'
'Bosses usually feel that their methods are preferred over their predecessors because they now hold the position,' Taylor explains. 'Unless a method is clearly a mistake, don't challenge your boss with the 'old ways of doing things' just because they made things easier for you.'
'I can't work with him/her'
Not playing well with others isn't good in elementary school, nor is it acceptable in the workplace. It's assumed that you are capable of getting beyond personality conflicts in the interest of delivering excellent results.
'He's a jerk'
'The golden rule is something your boss expects you to observe, and casting aspersions on others has no redeeming value. It just reflects badly on you,' Taylor says.
'Why does Jane always ...?'
Whining is annoying. 'If you have a gripe, better to ask how you can attain a certain privilege and leave others out of the discussion,' she suggests.
'Can I speak with your boss about this?' or 'I want to speak with HR about this'
'Going over your boss' head challenges authority -- a usually no-win situation, unless you're about to quit (or be terminated) and have no other recourse,' says Taylor.
If you're going to HR, don't threaten in advance, she says.
'I don't have a solution'
Don't tell the boss about problems without presenting potential solutions, says Kahn. 'Leaders talk about solutions; followers talk about the problems.'
'I've gotta tell you about last night's hookup!'
Sometimes a boss-employee relationship blossoms into a friendship. But sharing intimate stories at work may not be a wise move, Randall says.
'What if a coworker overhears the sizzling conversation? That may open you or your boss up to a sexual harassment or inappropriate conversation write-up,' she explains.
'Why does Jim have this and I don't?'
Focus on your own career, not the salary or promotions of others -- unless you're witnessing blatant favoritism. 'If that's the case, you can opt for a more professional discussion once you've collected your thoughts about the facts,' Taylor says.
'I'm pretty busy. Can it wait?'
It's your responsibility to ask your boss if priorities have changed, as your objectives must stay aligned with your manager's. 'Priorities are rarely stagnant, so as in most cases, your better option is to ask if you should reshuffle them,' she recommends.
Your manager doesn't want to hear negativity or a lack of conviction. If you have concerns, state what they are and ask for input.
One of the best approaches in deciding whether to share your thoughts with your boss or ask sensitive questions is to put yourself in their shoes, Taylor suggests. 'Do your comments and questions reflect a positive, can-do, and confident demeanour? Remember loose lips sink ships -- so choose your words carefully when you feel challenged at work if you want to thrive in your career.'
'Can I leave early today since things are slow?'
It's fine if you have to leave early. But don't say it's because 'things are slow' or you have 'nothing to do.'
'There are always more projects in the pipeline. Bosses want you to show initiative,' Taylor says.
'I'm going to be out these days,' or 'I'm leaving early tomorrow'
Don't tell your boss you're going on vacation or leaving the office early -- ask or politely run it by them. It's far more professional.
You're not a child, so you don't have to phrase it as: 'May I please take Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday off?' Instead, try: 'I was planning to take off Monday through Wednesday, and wanted to make sure that was ok with you.'
'Do you monitor emails or internet usage?'
Few things scream, 'I'm doing something I'm not supposed to,' more than asking if you'll get caught.
'At my last job we did it this way'
No manager likes a know-it-all, so you must tread lightly if you think you have a better way. 'You're better off phrasing sensitive or challenging responses by turning them into questions versus being confrontational,' Taylor says.